The Infamous Question

November 22nd, 2013
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I was at my neighbor’s house last week and we sat down and talked while our two daughters played together. My neighbor commented on how nice and sweet my daughter is, and that it is good for her daughter to have a friend such as my daughter. The conversation was going well and then the [...]

It Takes a Village – Donor Metaphor

November 5th, 2013
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I have had the privilege of seeing first hand “where babies come from”. Our first two frozen embryo transfers with adopted embryos, albeit unsuccessful, allowed me to see what these embryos looked like under the microscope. I watched them slowly rotate and float in their little petri dish before they were taken into the catheter [...]

What’s Your Goal?

October 25th, 2013
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When you first start to suspect a problem after unsuccessfully trying to conceive for a time, it may be easy to jump to conclusions. Don’t. There are many different reasons why a couple may not have been able to conceive, some more serious than others, and some unidentifiable. You simply don’t know where your situation [...]

Grieving Loss of Intimacy

October 22nd, 2013
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One of the losses of infertility that doesn’t get a lot of attention is the loss of intimacy. One way this happens is when sexual intimacy becomes so focused on conception, that it loses its unitive function. Rather than something to look forward to as a shared expression of love for each other, it becomes [...]

Categories: Marriage, Resolution

Time Doesn’t Stop

October 11th, 2013
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It’s been 3,650 days, 120 months, and 10 years from the day that I found out that we suffered with infertility. You tend to think to yourself that if you just give it time and relax that it will happen. You will just wake up one day nauseated and pee on a stick and you’re pregnant; [...]

Reminders of Infertility

October 8th, 2013
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I want to consider us cured. Maybe not cured of infertility, since the medical condition that got us started on this journey is still there, but cured of childlessness. For me, it was always the difference between being a mother and not being a mother that made infertility so difficult. So once I finally became [...]

Relating to Single Friends

October 7th, 2013
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One thing I have learned from living with infertility is to sympathize with my single friends. My husband and I are in our mid-thirties, as are most of our friends. Over the years, I have heard about their desire to settle down, the various attempts they have made to find a suitable partner, and the [...]

It’s Your Time To Heal – Male Factor Infertility

October 3rd, 2013
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I remember it like it was yesterday when we received the phone call that changed our lives forever. My husband and I were at work and the doctor’s nurse called me back. She started off the conversation with a question, and that question was “Have you ever considered donor sperm?” We knew at that moment [...]

Not Childless, but Still Infertile

September 30th, 2013
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While technically secondary infertility refers to the inability to easily conceive a second or subsequent child after not having any trouble with the first one, I wonder if there shouldn’t be a similar term for those of us who have primary infertility that has been resolved one way or another. (And by “resolved”, I don’t [...]

Facing Emotions Of Infertility

September 9th, 2013
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At my job we have decided that we would get uniforms for our technicians. I was responsible for finding the company and getting prices and so forth. We settled upon the company and I called the representative out to my office. Somehow the representative and I start talking about vacations and needing to take a [...]