When my husband and I first got together, I was a "yeah, sure" kind of person. I just wanted to be loved, and I wanted my husband to be happy, so I pretty much let him lead the way in our marriage. He made most of the decisions in our marriage, from what to eat to how to spend our time. He was no dictator: I simply rarely offered an opinion. I was happy to let him be in charge. All of this changed when it came to starting a family.

My husband always got a "deer in the headlights" look on his face whenever the topic of children came up. We agreed that we ... more