Click on the link above to see a night sky filled with stars named after babies lost to miscarriage, stillbirth, SIDs, and other infant loss. The page is created by Empty Cradles.
Last week I wrote about ways to cope on Mother’s Day with loss. One of the tips was to create an online memorial. So today, I thought that I would look up some memorial sites that offer a chance to remember our babies, because some don’t have the option without a birth and death date.
On the home page is a simple form to fill out where you choose the type of star you would like to represent your baby, then the name and significant dates. To see all of those little stars twinkling together is soothing to me. The images themselves are comforting, but the sheer number of stars is healing to see that you are not alone in your loss as a parent. And then to see that there are other night skies that are already filled up! What a reassuring site.
Another reason that I think that this site clicked with me, was that after our losses, I seriously considered getting two little tiny stars tattooed on my foot to memorialize the two that we lost. I figured that I could add on, once we did end up adding children into our lives. Or that the two little stars could be on their own, in their own sacred space. But I never got the tattoo. In fact, I don’t feel like I really did anything.
I haven’t yet chosen the star for our little guy, as there are many choices and many that I like. I think that I’m also going to head back to the Supercluster Galaxy and see if there are any other babies that share our same loss date, which is rapidly coming up on May 18th. I just noticed this as I checked my calendar this morning.
You can also order loss ribbons from this site, but the link to that is down the last time that I checked. And I absolutely love their motto: “Empty Cradles A Mother’s Heart Never Forgets…”
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