While researching new miscarriage articles throughUsaToday, I came across this link for a miscarriage and loss site called A Quiet Refuge.

This site offers items that memorialize your pregnancy, infant or young child loss. They offer an album, which I am considering ordering, and a certificate that I posted the image of above. This I am ordering for sure.

It has been quite a while since the loss of our first pregnancy, yet I think about the child that would have been on an almost daily basis when things are somewhat quiet around the house. So many unanswered questions that plague my mind still to this day.

One of the things that I have always considered is to have some sort of tattoo, to memorialize my losses. In the beginning, I thought about stars. When I announced Ivy's birth I used a star theme and I also think about the stars being in alignment in the gift of Becken into our family. I have always thought that a tiny blue star, somewhere on my body, possibly my toe, would be an important tribute to my baby lost.

When I saw this certificate, I did a double take. While I am still considering a tattoo, now it has evolved into the Virgin Mary since I lost my dad, I think that this certificate may fit the bill until I decide for sure about the permanence of body art.

I know that some people may find the certificate too obvious or over the top. But in all honesty, I don't care. I think about myself filling out the form, and framing and hanging the certificate in my office as a physical item to represent my memory of my baby. I'm excited about finally finding something to fill this void.

At this site they also offer an album which I will review in my next post.