Lisa Safran has written a funny book called Laughin’fertility, which focuses on the humorous aspects of fertility procedures. (I referenced her book in my last post, Fertility versus Infertility.) Considering how depressing the whole process can be, I think it is a great idea to find a way to laugh through your tears. This is what Ms. Safran achieves in her book.
The book is divided up into short musings that focus on one aspect of fertility at a time, so you do not have to read the book straight through to enjoy it. You can flip through to the topic that interests you and read her observations and amusing anecdotes on the subject.
Some of Ms. Safran’s observations made me laugh aloud. For example, she talks about trying out the various “tricks” to get pregnant, such as holding your legs up in the air for 20 minutes after intercourse or taking cough syrup moments before love-making. Then she says -
By the day we were scheduled to see the doctor, my flexibility had increased, my cough was gone, but no, we weren’t pregnant.
It makes me laugh because it is so true. I did the same things, and I had the same results.
Reading her book helped me to laugh at some of the things that I went through. It was kind of like talking with a girlfriend after-the-fact about something that you went through alone. I felt isolated when I was going through fertility procedures. Ms. Safran’s book drives home that I was not the only one feeling this way about the obstacles I faced as I tried to conceive.
One word of warning – This book is not for those who are “reserved” in their attitudes about fertility procedures. Ms. Safran calls a spade a spade, so someone who is uncomfortable reading very direct language (particularly sexually explicit language) might not enjoy her sense of humor. For example (and I am purposely choosing a relatively mild excerpt), when talking about how the behaviors of husbands are very different from their wives, who generally want to talk about everything, she says -
Men have a hard enough time talking with their wives about menstrual cycles, swollen breasts and maxi pads each month. Now throw in your baby-making challenge and many guys turn into mutes.
I had to laugh because this described my husband and me so well. I wanted to talk about everything we were going through, and my husband did not want to say a word. However, if you are uncomfortable talking about menstrual cycles and swollen breasts, then this is not the book for you.
There are many books out there about fertility procedures. What makes this one different is the way the author presents the material. She looks for the humor in painful situations, which can be a wonderful coping strategy. If you want to inject some humor into your fertility procedures, then you might want to check out this book.