Feeling Different

When Intimacy Suffers

March 12th, 2013
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In some respects, infertility is a medical condition unlike any other.  Not many other health concerns are so deeply tied with the intimacy between spouses.  In fact, for many struggling with infertility, what is meant to be a source of love, solace, comfort, stress relief, is often nothing more than a reminder of one’s infertility. [...]

Can’t Always Get What You Want

February 28th, 2013
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There must be a reason for our infertility: either a medical explanation or a spiritual purpose.  I can appreciate the advice of well-meaning loved ones who try to point this out.  What I don’t appreciate is how quickly some people jump to their own assessment of our situation. Just because we don’t have children doesn’t [...]

This is Not Your Typical Mother’s Day Story

May 12th, 2011
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For Mother’s Day my husband and daughter treated me to a wonderful dinner at one of my favorite Italian restaurants. My daughter who is six years old still needs to be reminded to use her utensils and not her fingers and to sit properly in her chair from time to time. In other words, she [...]

Audaciously Awaiting

April 23rd, 2011
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In most societies, it is assumed that girls will grow up and have babies. We, as girls are given dolls to play with, babysit, help with others’ kids and are taught nurturing skills in preparation to become a Mom. Historically, women had children at a much younger age and had more children. As women entered the [...]

The Goal of Fertility Treatments

April 20th, 2010
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The Southeast Chapter of RESOLVE is having it’s first annual Family Building Conference on May 1st in Atlanta, Georgia (CLICK HERE for more information). Beyond being a spectacular idea – getting people together with experts to discuss issues surroung infertility – it is also very well named! The conference intends to “address the medical, emotional, [...]

Odd Man Out

June 15th, 2009
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Each year, for 11 years, I have gone an annual girls’ trip to the beach with up to 10 (some years there are a couple that can’t make it but we typically have 7 or 8 every time) college friends. Through the years our conversations have changed as together we have made it through the [...]

Hopes and Dreams

May 13th, 2009
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In the world of infertility you often feel as though you should be “game” for anything – you know that you are going through all of this to have a child and you can sometimes be made to feel selfish or unenlightened if you have a desire to have a biological child. If you want [...]

“Normal”

March 22nd, 2009
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When you are struggling to conceive one of the things you long for the most is just to be normal. Nothing could make my jealousy peak more than when someone would tell of the fun and unique way they told their partner they were expecting. The innocence of a newly pregnant woman at only 8 [...]

The Waiting Room

March 11th, 2009
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Right before I began my IVF cycle I could hardly concentrate on anything else; my every thought centered around the upcoming treatment. That is why I was sadistically semi-happy about the major toothache I got only a couple of days before my first monitoring visit. The pain in my mouth helped distract me from all [...]

Being Selfish

March 9th, 2009
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About four years ago my mother-in-law gave me a fertility doll that was supposed to give me good luck in efforts to conceive. Either I have unrealistic expectations on how fast that doll was supposed to work, or my particular fertility doll was faulty. Either way I don’t think I can give credit to the [...]