Writing about the creation of life is about beginning again. There is so much information available today for most people who are trying to conceive. Websites, blogs, advertisements, all leading to potential answers and antidotes which will certainly help you become pregnant. After having gone through so many infertility treatments, experiments on my body, mind and soul, it would inevitable lead to the "Begin Again". And, every time, the begin again was so excruciating and so painful, and yet there was the promise of next time. This is where the mind is so powerful over being influenced by those involved in this multi-million dollar industry. Your goal is to be a parent and you will go through things so incredible to have a… [more]
It seems to me like I meet more people who are experiencing infertility all the time. This may be that I'm drawn to these men and women because I feel a connection with them or maybe it is something else. A lot of people feel that some couples are experiencing infertility at a higher rate because they are waiting until they are older to start having a family. But I've come across one person who has a different opinion on the matter. This person feels that more people are experiencing infertility because there are simply less spirits ready to come to Earth. This person believes that a finite amount of souls were made before/during the creation of the Earth. Then one by one… [more]
I have an odd gift of finding the craziest things I think. So for this month’s crazy infertility myth I'm going to write about eating monkey brains. At first I thought this was an urban legend that sprang from an Indiana Jones movie, but on further studying I've found this to be a real tradition. In several Asian countries it is believed that eating monkey brains can cure impotence. One study states, “Indonesian medical experts say most legitimate traditional medicines are derived from plants, not animals. However, the belief in animal cures remains strong. Although about 85% of the population is Muslim, many Indonesians retain ancient animistic beliefs.” These countries have very inadequate health care and medical treatments can be insanely… [more]
About four years ago my mother-in-law gave me a fertility doll that was supposed to give me good luck in efforts to conceive. Either I have unrealistic expectations on how fast that doll was supposed to work, or my particular fertility doll was faulty. Either way I don't think I can give credit to the doll for working four years later! The fertility "aid" got me thinking though, about the pressure from other people when we were having trouble conceiving, and my motivations behind so desperately wanting to have a baby. I sometimes had to take a step back and make sure that the main reason I wanted a child was for me and my husband, not to… [more]
In this era of "octomoms" and families of 8 or 18 it is easy to understand how people can have misconceptions about infertility and its treatment. As I was searching for information and statistics regarding multiple births and fertility treatment (out of pure curiosity), I realized that there are A LOT of myths and misunderstandings when it comes to reproductive challenges and assistance. I, like a lot of other people, don't always know the difference between truth and fiction when it comes to infertility and so I thought I would use this blog as a forum to address some of those myths and try to find the truths. Probably one of the most prevalent general ideas about IVF… [more]
Today a friend of mine who has struggled with secondary infertility for six years gave birth to a healthy baby boy! The event prompted me to think back on our many conversations about trying to conceive and how afraid and scared we were to try IVF. My overwhelming wish throughout that time was to just finally get pregnant naturally and not have to "pull the trigger" and try in-vitro. As I remembered these thoughts and feelings I was shocked at the realization that now that I look back at my fertility journey I am actually glad that we moved on to IVF. That is definitely not something that I ever thought I would say… [more]
One of the fertility myths that annoys me the most is the misperception that adopting a child will cause you to become pregnant. The media continues to perpetuate this myth, which might be one reason that people seem to buy into this nonsense.
I adopted my son almost seven years ago, and I have not become pregnant. I know many other adoptive parents, and very few have conceived babies after adopting. While there are some adoptive parents who do go on to have a biological child, most do not. According to the Encyclopedia of Adoption, less than 10% of adoptive mothers go on to bear biological children.
I have read other studies stating that the percentage of pregnancies after adoption are consistent with the… [more]
When I was trying to conceive, I lost count of the number of "solutions" to our woes offered by well-meaning family and friends. I can look back now and see the humor in these suggestions. However, when I was going through the process, I was not amused.
Here are some of the solutions that I was offered:
"Womankind: Is SeasonaleÃ‚Â® Reasonable?" Elaine Stillerman, LMT, wrote the above article for Massage Today, a publication that I receive. She is upset with the marketing of SeasonaleÃ‚Â®, and wonders if other women feel the same way. Is there anyone else feeling disgusted and outraged at the latest assault on women by the pharmaceutical industry? Are women so gullible that we believe these mega-billion dollar giants have our best interests in mind when they claim that the female reproductive system is broken and needs fixing? I was sitting home one evening, minding my own business, when a commercial for SeasonaleÃ‚Â® came on. In the ad, several 20-something waifs, clad in white dresses with pink polka dots, were kicking the dots as they fell… [more]
"Just relax" There is hardly any one comment that makes trying-to-be parents as crazy as the above statement. It seems to say that there is a "blame" to lay on someone, and you are the intended target, since you are so incapable of handling your stress, you are being punished by not having a child. Well, at least this is how I took it! Speaking to others, I don't think that I was alone in this reaction. I came across an article from the 2005 issue of Health magazine titled, "Stress and Your Fertility" by Susan Dominus. Needless to say, I was curious. The article deals with interrupted menstrual cycles which could bring on infertility in women who have waited to have children. Dr. Sarah Berga from Emory… [more]