Hope

In the world of infertility you often feel as though you should be "game" for anything - you know that you are going through all of this to have a child and you can sometimes be made to feel selfish or unenlightened if you have a desire to have a biological child. If you want to be pregnant, you often have this niggling thought in the back of your mind that pregnancy should not be a goal - a baby should - and that means that you are always cautious when you talk about conceiving. I always made sure I talked about wanting a baby instead of saying "I want to be pregnant" for fear that I would be judged as… [more]

4. Treat each day like the precious gift that it is This may be helpful in not losing your hope all of the way, but I know from experience that when hope is gone, this is the hardest suggestion to accomplish. Each day is not a precious gift while you are in the hopeless mindset, it is more like a punishment. But if you can get into this practice beforehand, you might be able to hang on to it longer. 5 Every morning, afternoon and night, take a 30 second break to look at the sky, breathe deeply and offer thanks This really would have been helpful to me to have some sort of reminder to get out and observe and or experience… [more]

"Don't Lose Hope"by Naomi Drew There are only two times in my life, so far, that I have lost hope. Those times were when I was dealing with infertility and when we received my dad's terminal cancer diagnosis. Both times I was devastated. Both times it was like the world had grown dark and would not be light again. Many people will tell you to not lose hope. But not many will tell you how to not lose hope. In fact, in that instance, you are hopeless already so what can you do? According to the article above, there are ways to hang on to hope. Or, in some cases, to try to get it back. 1. Be kind to… [more]

In this very early morning, Ivy woke up and was talking to me, not really awake, but not asleep either at 3 a.m. As she was falling back to sleep she told me, "Mama, my piggies hurt." I went over and looked at her toes and didn't find anything wrong. I asked her if she wanted me to give them a magic kiss. She said, "No, prolly it needs a band aid to be all better." I went to the cupboard and got her a large band aid that I put on top of her foot. She touched it, sighed, and went to sleep. When Chris woke up I told him this cute story and we laughed… [more]