Life Lessons

Relating to Single Friends

October 7th, 2013
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One thing I have learned from living with infertility is to sympathize with my single friends. My husband and I are in our mid-thirties, as are most of our friends. Over the years, I have heard about their desire to settle down, the various attempts they have made to find a suitable partner, and the [...]

Advice for Infertility Newbies

August 26th, 2013
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Pregnancy after infertility: what can be better than that? A positive pregnancy test is the ultimate goal, right? Perhaps this may very well be true for those who never experienced loss. However, even a single early loss of pregnancy can jeopardize the rightful joy of a newly discovered pregnancy. The thinking is that if it [...]

Retreat for Those Experiencing Infertility

June 12th, 2013
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Five couples and four women without their husbands in tow usher into the conference room. We drove various distances to be here. Some from Virginia, some from North Carolina and Pennsylvania, and some from the other end of West Virginia, where our retreat house is located. We’ve been married anywhere from less than 2 years [...]

The TTC Semi-Finals

April 1st, 2013
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I’m seeing double. Double lines on a home pregnancy test, that is! But hold your congratulations. I have been here before, and it did not end well. The way I see it, entering the two-week-wait after an embryo transfer, insemination, or timed intercourse is like entering a competition of sorts, even though we are not [...]

Categories: Hope, Life Lessons, Stress

Opportunities of the 2 Week Wait

March 30th, 2013
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While the infamous two-week-wait seems to be dreaded by most women, it’s only because the focus so often is about what we want. “Obviously,” you may say. But for a person of faith, it is not necessarily so clear-cut. This time of uncertainty offers several opportunities for growing in our relationship with God, and perhaps [...]

Two Week Wait Obsessions

March 27th, 2013
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The time between an attempt at pregnancy (be that timed intercourse, an intra-uterine insemination, or an embryo transfer) and confirmation of the result of the attempt is commonly referred to as the two week wait. Generally speaking, it takes about two weeks before a pregnancy can be detected, even though the actual length of time [...]

Having a Backup Plan

March 26th, 2013
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Going into this frozen embryo transfer, I thought I had it all figured out. Since our last failed attempt nearly a year ago, we went on hold to try to align our plans with the will of God. Coming out of the hold period, I felt totally peaceful about this year; 2013 would either be [...]

When Intimacy Suffers

March 12th, 2013
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In some respects, infertility is a medical condition unlike any other.  Not many other health concerns are so deeply tied with the intimacy between spouses.  In fact, for many struggling with infertility, what is meant to be a source of love, solace, comfort, stress relief, is often nothing more than a reminder of one’s infertility. [...]

Can’t Always Get What You Want

February 28th, 2013
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There must be a reason for our infertility: either a medical explanation or a spiritual purpose.  I can appreciate the advice of well-meaning loved ones who try to point this out.  What I don’t appreciate is how quickly some people jump to their own assessment of our situation. Just because we don’t have children doesn’t [...]

Audaciously Awaiting

April 23rd, 2011
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In most societies, it is assumed that girls will grow up and have babies. We, as girls are given dolls to play with, babysit, help with others’ kids and are taught nurturing skills in preparation to become a Mom. Historically, women had children at a much younger age and had more children. As women entered the [...]