Childfree/Ending Treatment

Being at Peace on the Journey

February 11th, 2013
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What if we never have children?  Until recently, I never entertained this possibility.  I saw infertility as a struggle that needed to be won.  To stop pursuing parenthood once we made up our minds that it was something we wanted was to give up.   I couldn’t envision a life where we would be happy in [...]

Set a Date

May 19th, 2010
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When it comes to large choices in life it is best to plan ahead. The best plan of action, at least for me, is to pick a start date, some milestone goal dates, and then finally an end date. When we started out with our infertility treatments I naively chose an end date of being [...]

Infertility: Can You Accept Never Being a Parent?

January 16th, 2008
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When I was going through fertility treatments, my doctor gave me pamphlet about how infertility is resolved. The pamphlet said that when I ended treatment, it would be in one of three ways: I would conceive a child. I would choose to live a childfree life. I would adopt or foster a child. For me, [...]

How Does it Feel Never to Conceive?

September 13th, 2007
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For those of you who are winding down your fertility procedures, you might wonder how you will feel down the road if you never conceive a child. Some of you might be considering growing your family through adoption or fostering a child. Others might be deciding either to lead a childfree life or to more [...]

Infertility: Letting Go of the Dream

July 31st, 2007
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Adopting a second child was taking a long time, so my husband and I decided to pursue fertility treatments again. The endometriosis had grown back, so I needed another laparoscopy to remove it. This time, the endometriosis was so bad that my left ovary was “stuck” to the back of my cervix. My body had [...]

Throwing in the Towel, in a Small Way

March 16th, 2007
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Today I’ve been working all over. First at one job, then the next, then the next. All the while fitting in some housework and some exercise. I have been trying to finish up some posts and to hopefully get a little ahead in my writing. I keep a file of writing ideas on my favorite [...]

Women Without Children: Indecision

July 5th, 2006
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Continuing with the second part of the women without children series by Erica Hielman at the Chicago Sun-Times, is the article concerning indecision. One of the most helpful points of this part of the article involved the myth of fertility treatments. In a sense, our society has now been convinced that we can delay pregnancy [...]

Women Without Children: Finding Their Place II

July 3rd, 2006
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Finishing up with the article, “Women Without Children: Finding Their Place”, written by Erica Heilman, I wanted to re-print some more of the interview, and also give some of my opinions about what was said. Once again, this was a very interesting perspective of life as a woman. You talk in your book about the [...]

Women Without Children:Finding Their Place

July 3rd, 2006
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I just finished reading an article in the archives of the Chicago Sun-Times. Doing a search, I found that this paper had quite a few articles relating to fertility. All of which, I was interested in. This article is titled, Women Without Children: Finding Their Place, written by Erica Heilman. It is the initial part [...]