Yesterday I met with a group of girlfriends for a seminar in the early afternoon. The "seminar" was brought up by one of my friends who had just had a legal victory and she wanted to celebrate with her girlfriends, without the husbands and the kids. The rest of us were all there, ready to help. It took a bit of scheduling and a lot of emails back and forth but 5 of us met at a new pub that we had all been wanting to try.

Conversation around the table was diverse. I had iced tea and 7 up and we all shared a large order of fries. As I thought about each of us who were there 3 of us had been touched by infertility in various stages in the past 4 years. 1 of us is child free by choice. Although this wasn't a support meeting for infertility, it has been in the past. And still could be again in the future. Along with being a mommy group, a venting area for marital strife and a party planning and wedding planning committee. We have seen a lot of life and have dealt with a lot of life successes and blows.

This group has evolved and changed and will continue to as we grow and change. With additions and subtractions of members and acceptable topics, these women have been with me for years. And although we don't meet regularly anymore, or very often, they have meant the world to me in support. They never started out as an infertility support group for me, but that is what they became.

Advice to couples that are undergoing infertility and pregnancy loss is often to go to a support group. Who knows? One of your groups may already fit the bill. Informal or formal a support group can be very helpful during this time.